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Whether you've chosen to have children or to be childfree, how and when did you (or will you) reach that decision? If you're in a relationship, did you (or will you) decide separately or together?
I came to the true realization I didn't want children in my late 20s. Before that, I dreaded the idea of having children but thought it was something I was pre-destined to do. I had a tubal ligation right before my birthday in 2006, which completely solidified my decision to have children of my own.
I'm in a relationship right now and J doesn't want to totally rule out the possiblilty of adoption. That's just not for me; I especially don't want to start the process of raising a child after 40. I won't rule out doing something together like participating in big brothers/big sisters, though.
My initial decision to be childfree was made within the context of my first marriage, and I made the decision mostly on my own. He made it pretty clear he wasn't ready to have children any time soon when I made the decision, so I think (at least at the time) he was quite relieved about my decision.
I came to the true realization I didn't want children in my late 20s. Before that, I dreaded the idea of having children but thought it was something I was pre-destined to do. I had a tubal ligation right before my birthday in 2006, which completely solidified my decision to have children of my own.
I'm in a relationship right now and J doesn't want to totally rule out the possiblilty of adoption. That's just not for me; I especially don't want to start the process of raising a child after 40. I won't rule out doing something together like participating in big brothers/big sisters, though.
My initial decision to be childfree was made within the context of my first marriage, and I made the decision mostly on my own. He made it pretty clear he wasn't ready to have children any time soon when I made the decision, so I think (at least at the time) he was quite relieved about my decision.
